Whether you consider yourself together or ‘two’- gether, you will both find a wonderfully comforting yet exciting familiarity with each other. Familiarity never truly spawns into contempt, as the saying goes. Relationships that exist without creativity and satisfaction are the kinds that spawn contempt. Doing things together with your spouse doesn’t mean that you become dependent on each other.

Dependence is absolutely the worst thing for your relationship and will ultimately lead to an unhealthy co-dependency. Complete independence is not altogether good for a marriage either. If you are so focused on your own independence, you can never be a true couple. Interdependence is what almost all successful couples have been able to achieve and maintain. Interdependence is simply a reciprocal relation between interdependent individuals. It is possible to achieve such a balance in a relationship and it is the best way to have a respectful and successful partnership with your spouse.

Start to think about everything you do as an activity or opportunity for the both of you. If you have to go out of town on a business trip, take your spouse with you. While you’re away or even while you’re at home together, take turns reading the newspaper aloud in bed. Make sure you read the funnies to each other and you must use appropriate voices for different characters!

Take entire days together to go out and explore new things. Buy a book that lists all of the attractions in yours and surrounding areas. Visit each place that neither one of you has been to before. Go on treasure hunts to places like flea markets, auctions, antique shops, second-hand stores, garage sales, craft sales and church rummage sales. These are great places to pick up gifts for your spouse that you save for a later date.

While most people know about ‘his and hers’ items like bathrobes and towels, there are a number of other items that can be enjoyed together as ‘couples’ items. Try getting matching motorcycles along with matching T-shirts. Have matching his and hers overnight bags, coffee mugs, bicycles, cell phones, cars, holiday ornaments, tennis rackets, rocking chairs and even matching carved pumpkins on Halloween.

Go shopping together and work on finding something for him and something for her. Go to a bookstore and select a book that you know your spouse will like and have him or her do the same for you. Go to a music store and select a CD you know that your spouse will like and again, have him or her do the same for you. Find other ways to apply this same concept to other specialty stores.

At the beginning of each month, sit down together as a couple and review your calendars. Make all of your plans that you will do together before working in all of your other appointments and commitments into your schedule. Your relationship commitments should always come first and be your top priority. Couples who keep their relationship first in their lives have the most enviable relationships.

If a marriage cannot be saved, it’s time to consider a divorce. Visit Divorce Help Center for more divorce information. You will also learn about do it yourself divorce.

The Farmer and the Cow

   

A farmer is sitting in the neighborhood bar getting soused.
A man comes in and asks the farmer,
"Hey, why are you sitting here on this beautiful day getting drunk?"

Farmer: Some things... you just can't explain.

Man: So what happened that was so horrible?

Farmer:  Well, if you must know, today I was sitting by my cow,
milking her.
Just as I got the bucket about full, she took her left leg and kicked
it over.

Man: That's not so bad, what's the big deal?

Farmer: Some things...  you just can't explain.

Man: So then what happened.



Farmer: I took her left leg and tied it to the post on the left with
some rope.
Then I sat down and continued to milk her.
Just as I got the bucket about full she took her right leg and kicked
it over.

Man: Again?

Farmer: Some things...  ya just can't explain.

Man: So, what did you do then?

Farmer: I took her right leg and tied it to the post on the right.

Man: So then what did you do?

Farmer: I sat back down and continued to milk her,
and just as I got the bucket just about full,
the stupid cow knocked over the bucket with her tail.

Man: Wow, you must have been pretty upset!

Farmer: Some things...  you just can't explain.

Man: So then what did you do?

Farmer: Well, I didn't have any more rope,
so I took off my belt and tied her tail to the rafter.
In that very moment, my pants fell down and my wife walked in. 




 

We are often asked for help in finding the g spot. To support you around this, we’ve created a simple, step-by-step exercise that takes about an hour and a half. Be sure to try it when you have space and time to do it fully.

You’ll notice that much of this exercise deals with the time and set up BEFORE you actually try to find the g-spot. This is intentional. It is so important that a loving, intimate space be created. It is only through this that your lover’s g spot will come “out to play”. (if you’re old pro’s – we’re assuming you already have your own short- hand around all this, so we’ve written this for beginners, though there are likely tips here that you will also find useful)

Time Needed: Approximately 1-1.5 hours, preferably in the late evening, an hour or two after dinner

Steps to Prepare:

1) try to sleep well the night before and eat well the day you plan to do the exercise. being well rested and “clear” in your energy is helpful

2) plan to have a light healthy dinner, and don’t eat until you are full. We want you both to have light, clear energy and eating a large complex dinner can work against this

3) after dinner, set your partner up to enjoy a nice drink, good music, a book, etc. for about an hour. If at all possible, I recommend running a bath for your partner, so she can feel pampered, be opened up by the warmth, and feel clean and ready for what’s in store.

4) during this time (while she’s in the bath, or quietly reading, etc.) excuse yourself to do final preparation to your play space (you could have also done this earlier ... its just important, if possible, to set this up without her having seen it – so it feels like you’ve created a special sacred place for her)

5) some helpful things for setting up a sacred space: candles, incense, special sheets/pillows, sexy mood music, massage oil, lube, etc. Also, set up the area where you’ll be working with your partner – it could be on your bed, on a massage table, on cushions on the floor, etc.

6) change into loose, lightweight clothing (or even a bathrobe, sarong, or a towel) – really anything that you will be comfortable moving around and doing massage in

7) if you can’t do all these steps – don’t worry! just breathe, smile, open your heart and have fun.

Getting Started (5 – 7 minutes):

1) Invite your partner into your play space – and ask her to lie down in the space you’ve set up for her. In attitude and tone – you want to show that you’ve gone out of your way to set up safe, sacred space for her

2) In whatever way you feel its most appropriate, express your appreciation to your partner – thank her for all she does for you, for her loving nature, and for her willingness to share and explore her g-spot with you. It is a rare and intimate gift.

Massaging Your Partner (30 minutes):

1) Massage your partner, slowly and sensually for 10 – 15 minutes on each side. The intention of this is to create intimacy and connection between you, and to further relax your partner. It also helps her open into your touch and become more receptive. Its very important during this massage that you not touch her clitoris or vagina.

2) Long, sensual strokes that include her butt, and breasts are encouraged, as are: kisses to the back of her neck, light sex talk in her ear, nipple biting/blowing, etc.

3) Remember – there is nowhere to go, nothing else to do – just ENJOY. Your partner will enjoy you as you enjoy touching her.

Amping Up the Energy (5-10 minutes):

1) Now that your partner is feeling relaxed (and likely just a touch turned on!) you can begin to entice her further. This could include: kissing, nipple sucking, yoni massage, toe sucking, clitoral stimulation, etc. (I’m sure you get the idea : ) The main thing is to keep taking it SLOW, and don’t go inside her yet. This will likely feel very strange for you if you are used to just touching so you can have sex and orgasm. In this exercise, you are not going to be having sex – and your touch and play is so your woman gets super HOT and AROUSED. Again, do not go inside her yet!

Finding The G-Spot (10 minutes)

1) At this point, we’ll assume your partner is aroused, and hot, and begging for you to be insider her. If this is the case – WELL DONE! If not, continue your play using the above steps until that’s the case

2) Get situated so that you are both comfortable. For this next part you will be inserting your finger’s into her vagina, as well as touching her clitoris. Sometimes you can do this sitting at her side, or you can also kneel between her knee’s.

3) Take time to get yourself comfortable. Talk to your partner, ask her and sort it out. Don’t be shy – you will be in this next position for 20 minutes, and want it to be comfortable – and a few extra minutes now are well worth it.

4) Slowly insert your finger’s into your woman’s vagina and massage her from the inside. Play with her shallowly, deeply, at the back wall, in the front wall, etc. Take it slow, use saliva or lube to keep everything wet (you can never have too much lube!), and Enjoy.

5) WOMEN: It is important, during this part of the exercise, that you and your partner be communicating about what you like, what you’d like harder / softer / more of / less of / etc. This is an exercise to LEARN – and your partner needs your feedback and advise to be given verbally and explicitly throughout. Trust us – its worth practicing and pushing through any discomfort you might have.

Stimulating the G-Spot (15 - 20 minutes)

1) Now, its time to begin stimulating the g-spot. Insert a finger (or two), about 2 inches, and then slightly crook them. You want your finger’s facing forward, sorta like you are making the motion of “come here” with your fingers. You’ll be touching the front side of her vagina, with your finger’s wrapped around her pubic bone.

2) From this place, experiment with a variety of pressure – hard, soft, light, etc. We’ve found its often best to start touching as if your finger’s are windshield washers – with a constant pressure, sorta going back and forth.

3) [WOMEN: Give your partner feedback about what feel’s good, and what doesn’t – help them learn how to drive you wild in bed... Its well worth it! You can also experiment with clenching your PC muscle to see if this heightens your sensations]

4) You may feel a particular area which is more rough than other area’s, possibly ribbed or bumpy. This is the g-spot. As you stimulate it, the gspot will often become larger and more present as it get engorged. At this point, some women prefer harder pressure, but most prefer softer pressure (so the opposite of the clitoris).

5) Once you’ve found the gspot, and have a way of touching the area that your partner is enjoying, add in some stimulation to her clitoris. You can also push down with your hand on her pubic bone by placing your palm in the middle of her pubic hair. This accentuates your pressure from inside.

6) A magic combination is to touch the gspot with your index and/or middle finger while stimulating her clitoris with your thumb (good lube helps this greatly). Now, while you are doing this, imagine an arc of electricity going between your fingertips – connecting your thumb and your finger – and arcing through her clitoris and gspot.

7) At some point in this women, you may find you feel like you have to pee. If this happens, don’t worry. Nothing is wrong – just stay relaxed and go with it. (you may be in for a fun surprise and an introduction to female ejaculation!)

8) If you don’t orgasm from this exercise, don’t worry! It’s main purpose was to help you learn more about finding the gspot, how to best stimulate it, and to build intimate connection and trust with your partner. It can often take several repeats of this exercise to start feeling your gspot.

9) [VARIATIONS: try stimulating the gspot during and after orgasm, try different pressure,

strokes, angles, etc.. try it with one hand, two hands, you touching the clitoris, while your partner focuses on your gspot, etc. try using a pilllow or two under your butt to change your angle. Most of all – experiment, give feedback to each other, and enjoy yourselves]

Wrapping Up (5 minutes)

1) At some point – either after orgasm, or otherwise – you’ll feel the energy shift and it will be time to wrap the exercise up. At this point slowly and gently place one hand cupped over your partner’s vagina, and one hand open on her heart. Look into her eyes, and take a moment just to be present with each other.

2) Take a moment to breathe together, and enjoy what you’ve just experienced. Use the next 5 minutes to share about your experiences – what you enjoyed, what you most liked, what felt good, etc. Its always important to start with the positive. After this, you can think about what you’ll do differently next time.

Visit our pages on finding the g spot for more information.

Or check out our website and learn to explore your g spot, and enjoy amazing orgasms, and female ejaculation. Authored by a real couple, with practical tips, techniques, and exercises.

http://www.master-your-g-spot.com

I read the other day that the majority of American’s regularly have sex in just a few positions. Well, if that’s true, its time to shake things up! This article is on g spot positions. These are our favorite ways of hitting the g-spot during sex.

If you like boring, normal sex, that lasts just 5 – 10 minutes, don’t read this page. If you’re feeling more adventurous, and are ready to blow your mind then please, proceed!

So, the first step in hitting your g spot during sex is to know where it is! For the purposes of this article, we're going to assume you know what the g spot is, how to regularly find it, and how your partner likes it stimulated.

Now that that’s all taken care of – lets focus on g spot positions. The first step is to recognize that the g spot, or g spot area, is small and not always in the same place. So, throughout your sex you’ll both need to be communicating. What works, what feels good, what doesn’t, a little to the right, a little to the left, etc.

In the beginning, as you explore different g spot positions, its likely best if you agree not to have orgasms. We’ve found this makes it easy to have a sense of exploration and play.

And, without further delay, here are our three favorite g spot positions. Enjoy!

Ride ‘Em Cowboy (Woman on Top)

I have to say there’s something so sexy about a woman being on top, in charge of finding what feels the best. Really, this position is ideal because it allows the woman to control the depth, intensity, and speed. It gives you the ability to play, and explore, and notice how much more pleasure comes from subtle differences.

As you are on top, experiment with what feel’s best to you. Move, shift, tell your partner what feel’s good, rock back and forth, take it deep, keep it shallow, etc. This will likely work best if you are already aroused and hot. (This is true with all these g spot positions)

Now, as the guy in this position, you’re not just laying back passively (thought that is fine to do – just not now!). What will help your partner most is if you tilt your pelvis as much as possible. The more you can do this, the better.

You’ll also get a great workout! : )

Unfortunately, if you are anything like me, you’ll get super tired super quick. In the beginning we used to use alot of pillows to try to angle my hips. Lately, we’ve really been enjoying something called the wedge, its a liberator shape. This small shape puts your pelvis in the perfect tilted position without you having to do any work.

I know it sounds crazy, but the small, subtle positioning this enables, makes all the difference. If you want to find out more about liberator shapes, their website is www.liberatorshapes.com.

Doggy Style (Crouching, Man Coming from Behind)

This is one of our favorite g spot positions. Not only do you have great g-spot access, but there’s just something so primal andsexy about *&#*! from behind.

Now, guys, in this position you can take it easy and let her do all the work. In this case, ladies, use your thighs to press back and find the depth, thrust style, and position that works best for you.

However, guys, if you want to be more active, you can easily adapt this position. Push your woman down, and lay more on top of her (still coming in from behind)

Now, for the best g spot stimulation, position your legs outside of hers and put more of your weight forward, so you are riding her from up higher.

This puts your penis on more of a downward angle, and helps you hit her g-spot more directly. You can also experiment with having her legs more open, or more closed to see what feels best.

We've also been using the liberator shape - the wedge - in this position too. We found if we put that underneath my girlfriend, it gives her hips a particular tilt that totally amp things up.

Your Highness (Man Kneeling or Standing, Woman's Legs on His Shoulders)

We love this sex position. With many g spot positions you can’t look each other in the eyes. With this one, we recommend it. Also, when you want to hit the g spot, having your legs high and wide is the secret ingredient. Sometimes putting your feet on your partner’s shoulders can be the most comfortable (its also just super sexy!)

Now, you can do this position in lots of ways. You can do it off your sofa, a chair, or your coffee table (we won’t tell!). Or, you can modify it to work off your bed by kneeling vs standing. The only real key to this position is that your partner is angled upward, with her legs spread wide or on your shoulders. You can achieve this combination in lots of different ways (be creative!)

Well, these are our three favorite g spot positions, and I hope you try them out and enjoy!

Visit our pages on g spot positions for more information.

Or check out our website and learn to explore your g spot, and enjoy amazing orgasms, and female ejaculation. Authored by a real couple, with practical tips, techniques, and exercises.

http://www.master-your-g-spot.com

Every, (well almost every) foxy female out there has wanted to be their partner's very own private dancer. You may not envision yourself wearing silver tassels and 6inch heels, swinging from the chandelier, but I'm sure you've been tickled pink at the thought of having your partner at your mercy. Discover your inner Gypsy Rose Lee and follow these few pointers to pull off the perfect va va voom strip tease.

Get inspired! You don't have to trek to the nearest peeler joint, you can simply start by renting one of the biggest fads in the exercise world, the strip aerobic video. Who cares whether you'll break a sweat, I'm sure it's great at boosting your sexual self esteem. Burlesque shows are also a great way to pick up a few ideas and put a more squeaky clean spin on the art of the strip tease.

If you've got it flaunt it, if you don't... pretend! Confidence is everything. Get comfortable in your own skin by performing for yourself first. Get up the nerve, whether it takes a glass of wine, some dimmed lights or the house to yourself. Music is crucial, if you have rhythm then stripping to a hot ditty is the best way to feel authentic. Find music with a strong back beat which has a slower than usual tempo. Most of all pick a song that makes you feel every bit the sexy creature you are.

Think like an onion and wear plenty of layers, A strip tease which lasts 30 seconds is nowhere near as enjoyable as one which is wickedly played out while taking your sweet time. What layers you wear is up to you, be racy, fun or use a gimmick, the sky's the limit.

The only rules, and yes there are rules! Remind him in your best “Marilyn” voice that you can cop a feel, but he can't return the favor.

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Honestly, I don’t know enough about sex to comment on this topic. My last sexual partner is my current partner, and she has made it clear that for her, privacy is an aphrodisiac. All the better for you, since I have been forced to consult the sexiest person I know on your behalf. I talked to my German friend Sia Moore-Auphen. She’s been around the world so many times she has a passport collection: every page has at least three stamps on it and all the ink is bright red.

I asked Sia the secret to having More Sex. “Should people take out a clever personal ad?" I asked, "Do they need to sign-up for one of those on-line adult dating services? Or should I advise my readers to join the Young Republicrats and learn the art of making small talk?”

“No, No, NO! Rodney,” said Sia. “You make everything so complicated! There are only three secrets to having More Sex: one, you must date your own species; two, you must invite people into your bed, and; three, if they ask you, you have to say yes.”

I told her I didn’t think my readers would have a problem with the saying yes part, and that I believed most of them made it a rule to only date other human beings. “Just because someone is human, doesn’t mean I will go to bed with them,” said Sia. “If you are a troll, you need to date trolls. Homemakers should NOT date home wreckers. Elves should date elves not fairies.

Polyamories should ONLY date other polies and so on.” I agreed that parrot lovers would have a lot to talk about and agreed to pass on her advice. “Great,” she said, “your chances of getting lucky, and for lasting sexual happiness, are greatly increased when you date your own sexual species.”

But how about getting them into bed? “Ask,” she said. “Nicely,” she added. That can’t be all there is to it? “It helps if you’ve talked honestly and openly about what you like and listened attentively when your potential partner said what THEY liked.” I tilted my head doubtfully. “Of course,” said Sia, “it also helps if you are a good kisser, a generous tipper and aren’t afraid to dance, but honesty and desire are paramount.”

So, to review: date your own sexual species, ask, nicely, and say yes. “Right,” she said. “Oh, and use a condom and make sure they’ve had their shots, and if you ever get a chance to ..." she went into a long, detailed, explicit, steamy, oh-my explanation of ... well, anyway, it was beyond the purview of this article.

When I asked Sia about the question of quality, she said, “Quality is about being in the moment when you are together and being with the person you love when you are apart.” What? “Of course,” she explained, “you need to be there in the moments to know if what you are doing is working, to know how YOU feel about it, and to sense how THEY feel about it. Otherwise, you are just phoning it in.” Since Sia was Germany's number one phone sex operator three years running, I took her at her word.

“And when you are apart,” she said, giving me a smoldering look, “you need to think about what the other person might like. Try to get inside their skin. Consider what they’ve told you, and what they have carefully avoided telling you. Then,” said “then you will come to bed with an appetite for your lover, a hunger you will both long to satisfy!”

I thanked my friend and since the air conditioning unit had completely stopped working in the little restaurant where we met, I gathered my notes to go. “Just tell them to lighten up! Confidence is attractive to men and women. See,” she said, glancing at the notes I held carefully in my lap, “my sense of confidence is working on you.”

About the Author

Rodney Robbins is a writer and cartoonist. He does NOT have Sia’s current telephone number as she left for an extended vacation in Europe with her friends Bud Taster and Candy Mellons. You can visit Rodney’s store at http://www.lulu.com/rodneyrobbins to enjoy samples of Rodney’s work, most of it very much “G” rated.

Boy the dating scene these days is a devastating disaster, some feel worse than going thru Hurricanes Katrina, Rita or Wilma? Having your friends introduce you to others isn’t working that well and then you have to worry about all the gossip. Personal Ads are deadly, heck you never know what kind of wacko or sicko you might meet using those things.

 Internet dating was fun for a while you got to meet many interesting people, but that has gone too main stream now and you find yourself searching Google to see if the next person is a sexual predator or escapee from some mental institution.

Searching your potential date can be an issue too, when they have a common name, as there is just too much information and really all you want to do is get laid. There are specially designed websites of swingers, where they show basic body parts to get you interested, but are you really interested in someone who would actually post those sorts of pictures on the Internet to get a date? It makes you wonder if they have some wicked venereal disease, and they just might. Yuk.

It is a known fact that human beings do have body parts with lots of nerve endings and sex is an innate characteristic and psychological need of the species. It is not something to be ashamed of, in fact the other sex needs it to once in a while don’t forget.

The issues with diseases are bad enough, but can you imagine in the future if some friggin scientist gets on television and announces to the world that Bird Flu can be transferred from human to human thru sexual intercourse. Man that is a scary thought and you thought dating was bad now? Think on this, as it could be worse?

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It's a tough world out there, with all the upheaval and stress wouldn't it be nice to crave for a change ...some tenderness? Sure sex is sometimes fun just being hard rough sex but sex with a little tenderness is something that just simply soothes the soul in a way that nothing else can.

Tenderness can transform your regular sex fest into some serious love making and I can definitely attest to that! Tenderness doesn't have to be contrived, just let it flow naturally.

The most important factor in a tender interlude begins with eye contact. The eyes are the windows to the soul so why not open the blinds. Usually when two people have an intimate connection with each other, they can express certain emotions simply through body language and especially through an intense gaze. Keep eye contact all through your love making. Intimate tenderness can be as simple as a soft caress or a lingering kiss. Bathing your partner, brushing their hair or stroking their back are all tender moments to be savored.

Tenderness enjoyed during love play is something that can be mimicked even if it doesn't come naturally. Next time in the throes of passion, grab your partners hands as you gaze deeply into their eyes... now that's tenderness.

Take it slow, enjoy the moment. Be at peace in that particular minute with that one special someone. Practice the gift of tenderness by just kissing. Share soft gentle kisses... why rush. Try to pour all the emotion you can through the simple act of a shared caress. Tenderness can sometimes be as easy as transferring certain emotions through the act of touch. If you think it, try to feel it. Ease all the stresses in your life by sharing some tenderness.

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There are numerous contraceptive methods that you and your partner can use -- everything from pills to injections to implants. And of course there are condoms. When used correctly they can all be very effective methods of preventing unwanted pregnancy.

But the fact is, using a condom can often be the easiest, least expensive, and least intrusive method of contraception. And using condoms can have important health benefits as well.

Here are the top 10 reasons to use condoms rather than alternative contraceptive methods:

10. Condoms are widely available in pharmacies, supermarkets, and can be ordered online from many well established websites.

9. Condoms are a necessity for busy people in modern society.

8. Condoms are easy to use. The intervention of a health care professional is not required.

7. Condoms are a highly reliable method of birth control when used properly. On average they are up to 98% effective.

6. No need to "take" a pill that impacts your entire body and alters natural processes. Condoms are only required when you are having sex.

5. Unlike the alternatives, condoms can actually enhance the sexual experience because they are available in many sizes, shapes, textures, and flavours.

4. There are no medical side effects as with virtually all other birth control methods.

3. Condoms help protect women from infections and the development of cancer of the cervix.

2. When used properly, condoms are the only contraceptive that helps to prevent the spread of sexually transmitted diseases, including HIV.

1. Condoms are neat and tidy and make sex less messy.

Many people who have tried the alternatives are returning to condoms. They have decided the potential side-effects of other methods are not acceptable, or they are simply unwilling to tamper with the natural cycles of their body. Just as important, they have come to realize that only condoms can offer a significant barrier to infection and sexually transmitted diseases.

For more information about condoms and convenient ordering of all brand name condoms visit British Condoms.

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There is a widespread misunderstanding by many women, and surprisingly also by many men that boys and men only have sexual feelings in their penis, or even only in their penis head. The reason why many men also carry this misconception is probably that boys often are educated to suppress corporeal sensations and to be hard.

Many erogenous zones in men and boys are best activated when the body is relaxed, and the zones are stimulated in a gentle manner. Gentle stimulation of these zones in a relaxed state can give feelings of pleasure as strong as those in the penis, and can even result in some types of strong orgasmic reactions. Here is a survey of various erotic zones in the male body, and how to stimulate the sensations in these zones. You can stimulate yourself at these zones when masturbating, or the your female or gay partner can do the stimulation work.

THE SCROTUM AND THE TESTICLES

The scrotal skin and the content of the scrotum, including the testicles, are sensitive to erotic stimulation. When stimulating these genital parts, take first hold of the scrotum with your whole hand, warming it inside your hand, and massaging it gently by gripping movements. Warming and handling the scrotum gives feelings in the whole genital region. Stimulation of the scrotum also increases the blood circulation and engorgement of all the genital organs around the scrotum.

The testicles are best stimulated by gentle rolling movements with your fingers. Also tickle the scrotal skin with your finger tips. A part of the penis is actually hidden partly inside and partly behind the scrotal sack, by palpating with your finger tips between the testicles or at the side under the scrotum; you can massage this part of the penis. A sharp massage with your finger tips gives the most intense sensations to this hidden root of the penis.

THE BREAST NIPPLES AND THEIR SURROUNDINGS

The nipples of a man are important erogenous zones, and a man has tits just as a woman, although the tits of a man are smaller and flatter that those of a woman. Actually a man has all the structures that a woman has in his breasts, but they are not developed to have a milk producing capacity.

This means that a man’s breasts have the same erotic capacity as the tits of woman. A man's nipples also have an erective capacity. They rise and get hard upon stimulation. When stimulating a man’s breasts, take hold of the breast with your whole hand, warming it inside your hand, and massaging it gently by gripping movements. To stimulate the nipples, massage gently around the nipples with a finger tip. Also squeeze the nipples with your fingers, varying the intensity from the very gentle nip to some harder pressure.

THE REGION BETWEEN THE PENIS AND THE ANUS

The visible penis is actually a part of a larger body beginning at the prostate region just in front of the anus, and reaches to the tip of the penis. The urethra also goes through this structure. The parts between your legs will engorge when you are sexually exited just as the penis, and when it engorges, the region bulges out between the legs.

Upon mechanical stimulation, this area gives intense pleasurable feelings. You can stimulate this area by squeezing it between your fingers, pressing down against the urethra or massaging up and down along the urethra. You should change between gentle and a little harder handling, as these two manners give rise to different types of feelings.

THE NAVEL AND THE BLADDER REGION

The navel is an erotic point, and so are the structures in the middle of the belly between the navel and the penis. This structure contains a groove between the belly muscles. The structures in this groove are very sensuous, the so called linea alba. The naval can be stimulated by sticking a finger into it, and by tickling with your finger deep down in the navel. Also here you should alternate between light, gentle, slow tickling, and harder sharper tickling.

This stimulation give sensations that radiate out form the navel to the surroundings, and spreads downwards to the tip of your penis, giving a very funny feeling in your penis. The groove between the navel and the penis, you can stimulate by massaging up and down with the tip of your fingers.

THE BUTTOCKS AND ANAL SURROUNDINGS

The inner sides of the buttocks in the natal cleft give rise to deep erotic feelings with a very special intimate valor. Move your fingers up and down between the buttocks from the spine to the opposite end between the legs, and gently massage the inner side of each buttock with your finger tips.

You can also concentrate your attention to the region deep inside the cleft very near the anus and tickle these most intimate points with your finger tips. Further you can stretch each buttock to the side so that the butt cleft opens, and the rectal opening is also stretched. The result of these manipulations is erotic sensations that radiate to the whole pelvic area, flow deep inside you and rise upwards along your spine.

THE ANUS AND THE OUTER RECTUM

The anal region is in many ways the real central of feelings in a man or boy. By stimulating this area in the proper ways, you can create a process that spread waves of intense feelings of joy, pleasure and ecstasy up through the whole body, partly forward to the genitals and belly region, and partly along the spine up to the neck. You best stimulate the rectal opening by very gentle circulatory movements with your finger tips. Alternate between these circulatory movements and the stimulation of the insides of the buttocks.

You can also stick a smeared finger into the anal opening and stimulate by gentle movements in and out. By sticking your finger further inside, you can gently massage the inside walls of the anus. By adding some pressure, your stimulation reaches deep into the tissue around the rectum. All these stimulation give rise to profound feelings radiating to the whole body.

THE DEEP PART OF THE RECTUM

The perhaps most intimate and sensitive zone of a man, is the deep part of the rectum. This zone can be reached by gay intercourse or with a dildo or some other long object. When inserting something in the anus to stimulate this zone, it is necessary to be very cautious so that the intestinal walls are not hurt. However, this zone is so sensitive that even the gentlest stimulation gives an immense depth of feelings, both of physical and psychological kind.

You can stimulate this zone by gently and gradually by inserting a thin smeared dildo, and when fully inserted, very gently move it a little in and out, a little around, or press gently to different sides with the dildo. The more you relax, and the longer you do this stimulation, the deeper and more intense will the feelings grow.

THE PROSTATE:

The prostate lies just in front of the anus and the urethra goes through it. This gland produces much of the viscous fluid in the semen. You can stimulate it from the outside by pressing somewhat firmly with your fingers inward just in front of the anus. There is a deepening in this area, just like a little vagina. Press your finger into this groove and a little forward.

You can also stimulate the prostate by inserting your finger into the anus and massage the prostate through the front wall of the anus. The massage releases prostate fluid. Feeling the fluid coming through your urethra and dripping out through you pee-hole, add to the physical excitement. Also the prostate have its own sexual feelings, and prostate massage combined with anal stimulation can induce a form of orgasm that has a much deeper psychological and ecstatic impact than ordinary penile orgasm.

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Here is some relationship advice from the year 1886:

• Let your love be stronger than your hate or anger.

• Learn the wisdom of compromise, for it is better to bend a little than to break.

• Believe the best rather than the worst.

• People have a way of living up or down to your opinion of them.

• Remember that true friendship is the basis for any lasting relationship. The person you choose to marry is deserving of the courtesies & kindnesses you bestow on your friends.

• Please hand this down to your children and your children's children: The more things change the more they are the same.

by Jane Wells (1886)

To say that much has changed in the 119 years since this was first written is a bit of an understatement.

Something as commonplace as the technology that allows the publication of this newsletter or website would have been the subject of far fetched science fiction in 1886.

Yet some things do not change, like the basic emotional needs of men and women. Nor does what I call the couple-attitudes and couple-skills necessary for a vibrant long term relationship.

I bet this will still be true another 119 years from now in the year 2124.

Perhaps by then we’ll have the technology that will allow guys to “just know because you love me”...but that’s a subject for another day!

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It's so easy, as we race through each day trying to accomplish an impossible number of tasks, to forget about those we love. Soon, and often unintentionally, one partner, or both, are left feeling unappreciated, overlooked and in need of some serious "TLC."

Logically, we all know that a relationship must receive attention if it is to grow. Realistically, few of us take the time to fan the relationship flames as often as we should. But help is on the way.

Showing your special someone how much you love them doesn't have to take a lot of time or cost a lot of money. In fact, it's better if it doesn't -- it's the little things that we remember most.

So don't wait until next Valentine's Day to show your significant other that you love and appreciate them. Try to incorporate at least one of these romantic ideas into your partner's day, everyday (and when you've done them all, keep going by creating your own, or repeat the cycle!)

1.Cook them their favorite meal. Have it ready to go when they walk in the door, complete with candles.

2. Leave a note for your special other (or tuck one into a lunch/briefcase) telling them how much you care.

3. Try your hand at a love poem that includes special memories only the two of you share. Leave it somewhere unexpected.

4. Make your partner a CD of "your" songs. Have it playing when they come home.

5. If married, have your wedding vows framed and give it to your spouse "just because."

6. On a cold day, warm up their car for them.

7. Volunteer to do their share of the housework so they can relax. 8. Let them sleep in.

9. Pamper your significant other by running a bath for them. Include bath salts, candles, and soft music, then wash their hair.

10. Give your partner a massage (before they ask for it).

11. Bring them lunch at work.

12. Stop to say hello, kiss and hug every time you come in the front door. 13. Pack a lunch and take your special someone on a surprise picnic or walk in the woods. Or, pack a desert and go stargazing.

14. Flirt with them.

15. Hold his or her hand.

16. Bring them a blanket or sweater if they look cold. 17. Tell them you love and appreciate them, don't just assume they know.

18. Create your own holiday, then surprise your significant other with a celebration. This could be: "Happy 18 days since your last cigarette," a 2.5-year anniversary, or "I Love You More Than Ever Day."

19. Leave a flower and a note on the windshield of their car.

20. Cuddle for at least five minutes in the morning before getting out of bed.

21. Buy them a small, but meaningful, gift such as their favorite gourmet coffee, a pair of warm socks because their feet are always cold, a book on tape for them to listen to while stuck in traffic, etc.

 

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"He's just not that into you." Have you heard this statement? Maybe it's time to look at some important and perhaps missing elements in your self-worth. I think it is time to rediscover your dignity, self-respect, and "I've got better things to do" attitude, rather than hope for someone to come around who's just not that into you.

If you are dating someone who is showing you a blatant lack of interest, here are seven reasons why he is not available and why you are not that into him:

* He talks about his Ex...excessively.

He brings her into every conversation, every chance he gets. This is called baggage, and until he unpacks it, (works it out), he will carry it with him wherever he goes. This is a big reason he is not present and available.

* He is evasive about his work.

His work is unclear. He has not had steady employment for the last few years, has not been at one job for more than a year or two, and has no realistic plans for the future. Furthermore, he's talking about moving in with you.

* He rushes the relationship.

If he talks about marriage and a long future with you on the first date, he is probably desperate and is looking for just anywhere to land.

* He shows flashes of temper.

If the guy you are seeing shows that he has a bad temper or gets in angry moods for what seems like very little reason, run, don't walk, to the nearest exit.

* He never asks about your life.

If he never asks you questions about your life, or rarely wants to listen to your thoughts on any subject, and just generally uses you to vent to,...ask yourself why you would want to be with someone who's not that into you.

* You don't come first.

His list of priorities does not have you at the top. TV sports, buddies, parents, children, or other activities come before you do and he shows no signs of shifting his focus.

* You must always be available for him.

He expects you to be loyal and available to him, yet he checks out other women who walk by; has an unlisted cell phone number he doesn't give you; and spends hours on the computer but doesn't tell you what he is doing when he is there.

If you recognize any of the above signs...you just aren't that into him. You have better things to do. And if you are tied up with this guy, the great guy you want to meet who is looking for you too, cannot find you.

Remember...you deserve better, and you can have better, if you treat yourself better.

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Couples do not plan on growing apart - couples simply slowly drift apart over time.

Couples do not just drift into being close again. Growing close again requires intentionally taking action designed to grow close.

Here are some strategies for growing close again.

Remember when...? Have a conversation about how you first met each other and what first attracted you to each other.

Talk about the times you have felt the most connection. Then list the things you did that helped create that closeness. Then do those things again.

Mention something your partner did that you enjoyed. I'll even give you the words:

"I loved it today when you gave me a break from the kids/hugged me/held my hand/helped me at the office, etc."

Discover and use the love language of your partner. Does your partner most need to see it, hear it, or feel it to feel the most loved? If you do not know, ask.

Create a perfect day. Ask you partner what their perfect day might look like. Then create as much of that day as possible.

Renew and/or rewrite you vows. Who says we can only say these important words once? Renewing vows, commitments and words of love can rapidly and powerfully bring partners closer together.

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In my work with couples certain themes have emerged that can help us understand how a couple that was once so close can drift so far apart.

Let's take a closer look at a few of the contributing factors to drifting apart.

Life got in the way - Somehow, in the midst of the hustle and bustle of everyday life couples seem to forget about each other. The initial closeness they once felt has been damaged by focus on work, the bills, the kids, you name it.

Couples begin to take each other for granted - A close cousin to letting life get in the way, taking each other for granted slowly eats away at any connection a couple might feel.

What makes it worse is that it is so very easy to do. Keeping priorities straight in our stressful lives can be very difficult. We get so caught up in simply getting through the day that we forget about making a life with each other.

Couples stop treating each other well - Somehow we succumb to the notion that all the things we used to do that brought us together are no longer necessary.

It's like the old joke about the couple that has been married for many years when one day the wife says to the husband: "You never tell me you love me anymore!" To which the husband responds "Well, dear, I told you I love you the day we got married and if anything changes I will let you know."

Resentments are held - Old grudges, hurts and resentments are like a cancer in the relationship that eats away at the closeness of the couple.

Communication slows down and stops - This is the most frequent reason given by couples as a factor in the couple drifting apart.

Once a couple stops communicating, it's just a matter of time before couples drift from soul mates to room mates.

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What do you do when the man you have become attached to has some concerning behaviors that he is unwilling to address? Lots of women feel trapped by this dilemma because on the one hand they don’t want to lose the love they have found but on the other some things are just too much of a concern for them to ignore.

A lady I met called Sarah (this is not her real name) was facing the same problem. She and her boyfriend had a whirlwind romance and had fallen deeply in love. They made many promises to each other including plans to be married within a couple of years. Everything was going fine but as the relationship developed Sarah noticed that her boyfriend was not only unreliable but was not always telling the truth. Leaving wasn’t an option for Sarah because she loved him but his lying and undependability was preoccupying her time with worry and distress. Despite the discussions and arguments she had with him, he didn’t see the need for change and thought Sarah needed to just back off and leave him alone.

As she reached out for help, Sarah was able to figure out that two important principles to building a healthy relationship had been left out. The first one was that Sarah was making decisions to attach based on her feelings. Because she felt so good being with him she rushed into a committed relationship before she even had the chance to learn about the man she was dating.

Secondly, Sarah was not aware of her values and what was important to her in a relationship. Because she had not taken the time to figure these things out, she was not able let these be her guide in discerning character and solving problems.

When Sarah got in touch with what qualities were important to her, she was able to see that lying and being undependable were not on her ‘must have’ list of qualities. The man Sarah wanted to one day settle down with was not who her boyfriend was right now, and when she accepted this there was a huge shift in Sarah’s behavior. For Sarah, honesty and reliability were too important for her to ignore, though she hoped that one day her boyfriend would have these qualities, she decided that she needed to move on instead of insisting that he be that person when he didn’t see the need to be.

At one time Sarah’s quality of life had diminished because their plans were always dismantled by her boyfriend’s inability to keep them. Recently, she reported that she is very happy making new friends and enjoying how great it felt hanging out with guys who could be depended on to keep their dates!

Though at one point in her life it may have looked like she was losing love, Sarah learnt that she was actually working on protecting her ability to have love by making sure the qualities to build it were present. She found that her dreams of being married didn’t die when she left her boyfriend because her dreams belonged to her. She kept her dreams and by letting her values be her guide, Sarah is now moving towards seeing them come true.

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