| Physical and emotional changes are part of pregnancy. This may be a time of mood swings—for me and for Paul, the father of my baby. I feel tired, excited, happy, depressed, hopeful, scared, motherly and beautiful or uncomfortable and unattractive. The father, is anxious about new responsibilities. He feels protective toward me and the growing baby and also jealous of my new concentration on the pregnancy.
These mood changes affect how we feel about each other and our desire for sex. I've been searching on the internet for sex during pregnancy... take a look:
Questions that May Trouble Pregnant Women
Will my desire for sex be lessened during pregnancy?
No two women feel the same way during pregnancy. For most women, pregnancy does not change their interest in sex. For some women, birth control was an interruption, and pregnancy may be a period of freedom. At certain times, some women may feel they are "losing their figure and looks" during pregnancy. They may shy away from lovemaking, feeling less desirable. Or they may want sex more often than usual as reassurance that their partner still loves them and finds them attractive.
Occasionally, a woman does not want to make love while pregnant. This may be due to a fear of hurting the baby. These feelings usually go away after the baby is born.
Can vigorous (energetic) sex harm the baby?
It is almost impossible to harm the baby in the uterus by having sex. The water that the baby floats in, the membranes that hold the water, the womb, the abdominal wall and the bony pelvis serve to protect the baby from being hurt.
Is it harmful to have a climax (orgasm) during pregnancy?
Orgasm is not harmful to your baby.
How often is it safe to have sex during pregnancy?
How often you have sex will not affect you or your baby, unless you have high-risk problems and you have been told not to have sex. Couples make love at different rates and even vary from month to month. Some women are not interested in sex during the first few months of pregnancy. This may be due to tiredness and changes in hormones. These feelings often change after the first trimester, when your energy level and desire for sex may increase.
Can I have sex anytime during pregnancy?
Sex is usually allowed throughout pregnancy until the last few weeks. Some doctors feel that during the last few weeks, sex may cause premature rupture of the membranes. Many doctors have strong feelings about the answer to this question. It is best for you to follow your own doctor's advice.
Sex should be stopped and you should call your doctor if:
- Your water leaks or bag of waters breaks.
- You have vaginal bleeding, itching or discharge.
- You feel pain in the vagina or abdomen.
- You have tightening in your uterus, contractions or premature labor.
The pressure during sex makes me uncomfortable, but I do not have pain. What should I do?
If your partner's weight is what is causing your discomfort, position changes will help. For instance, your partner may kneel over you, or approach you from the side or back, or you may sit on top of him. If you feel pressure inside, do not allow your partner to move deeply into you. Position changes or putting pillows under you will change the way you are entered, which may also help. Using cream or jelly may help any vaginal discomfort.
I feel ugly and undesirable. My partner never tells me otherwise, and he does not cuddle me. What should I do?
Occasionally, some men are physically "turned off" during their partner's pregnancy. Usually this feeling is only temporary, and it should not be seen as a rejection. Your partner may have some other concerns and mixed feelings about this pregnancy, which may make him act indifferent and less caring. You also may be so involved with the life inside you that he may feel you are not interested in him. Talk to each other about these feelings. |
